Love The Skin You're In: An Ode to Self

Over this past week I've been feeling a bit out of sorts with myself. I was nitpicking about everything that I considered a flaw. I started from my hair texture down to my toes. I managed to find every little thing that made me feel less than "perfect". I knew in the back of my mind that could never exist but I managed to convince myself that it could. Perusing social media didn't help either as I saw countless users posts their seemingly "perfect" lives. Of course it was all based on my warped perception so after a few minutes, I put my phone down and took a few deep breaths to clear my mind. I began to say words of affirmations about myself to help myself start to feel better. I even found a few tips online to help. The main one that spoke to me was "To get outside!" Expeditiously I might add. Based on my personal experience I knew this was an instant mood booster. I didn't feel like walking around in my neighborhood so I decided to drive to my local crafts store, Joann. If you've never been there it's a haven for a DIY'er. There are endless possibilities and various options to help you start your next project. It can be a bit overwhelming if you don't have anything in particular in mind. I only knew I didn't want to commit to a huge task. So I was a bit giddy when I came across coloring books for adults. Coloring books for adults? You may be wondering. These coloring books are not the average ones. They have poems, scriptures, and quotes specific to self-encouragement. I was excited to give it a try. You can purchase this same book on my page.

After coloring a few pages, my mood drastically improved. What seemed like a burden a few hours ago, turned into determination to prove myself wrong. I looked at myself in the mirror again but this time I decided to let go of all of those negative thoughts. The areas that bothered me, I verbally expressed my gratitude. I apologized for complaining and told each flaw that I loved it. As I heard my affirmations, I felt foolish for even thinking otherwise. I reminded myself how awesome and fierce I was despite my flaws. I reminded myself that my flaws are what makes me perfect because I am who I am. I remembered the most important truth-that our lives are not promised and we have to live our lives to the fullest. No regrets!

What better way to display my self love than with this shirt that I purchased from For My Kinks Although the message primarily relates to natural hair, to me it means so much more than that. It tells the world that I am perfect the way that I am and I am enough. Of course I had to accessorize with my favorite color at the moment. My pineapple earrings are from Target and my hat is from Curlcap. You already know how I feel about the Curlcap. Unfortunately these items are not available anymore but you can purchase similar ones on my page.

I hope this post helps with any anxiety you may be facing when it comes to self-acceptance. Be encouraged everyone!

“When you get to your wits end, you will find, God lives there" Anonymous


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